Grab yer raingear. Mommypie’s purging.

I feel like I need to purge. Just a little.

If you’ve read Mommy Pie for awhile, you noticed the dwindling posts over the past year. SERIOUSLY dwindling. There were many reasons behind my absence — so many, in fact, that when they came together, they created a Perfect Storm of sorts. Not really a hurricane. And nothing as energizing as lightning. More like months of BLUH. With occasional pea-sized hail shots to the head.

I can attribute it to a few key things.

I started a relationship. Which, for Mommypie’s creative outlets ALWAYS spells disaster. My Creativity? A jealous mistress. She wants all my time. And when I don’t give it to her — when I become focused on anything OTHER than her — I get the silent treatment. She never calls. She never writes. And I sure as hell never get laid.

The relationship got complicated. After a VERY public proposal, things were fantastic. Then, they were difficult. Then weird. And now, unsettled and unsure. So … I don’t really feel like I can write about it just yet. Which is hard, because I WANT to. Kind of.

I started a business. Swap Mamas has become my all-consuming passion. After a year, we’re closing in on 6,600 members and over 1 million page views a month. But more importantly, we’re helping a ton of mamas. Which is highly addicting to someone like me who secretly loves the warm squishy pink fuzzies. (Side note: Just bought a book about Google, who’s mission statement is “Don’t be evil.” I’m stealing it.)

I became incredibly disillusioned with the state of blogging. As Mommy Pie got more popular, companies started approaching me. Wanting me to pimp their products. (Do a giveaway? What, you’ll give me something FREE?) Honestly I felt a bit gross about it from the start, but my famously convenient, “What the hell? Why not?” Mechanism kicked in. Ugh. I should KNOW better by now.

There are TONS of mommy bloggers out there doing reviews in exchange for product. I absolutely mean no disrespect. As much as I’m a sucker for free stuff, Mommy Pie just isn’t the right place. This blog is for ME. This blog is for my DAUGHTER. No one else. And I won’t be doing the review/giveaway thing in this space (I WILL continue to do giveaways on Swap Mamas. ‘Cause that’s different.) ever again. It dilutes the joy blogging brings me, and generally makes me sad to think about how, in such a short period of time, our culture of consumerism has penetrated a space I so love.

{Penetrated a space. Heh heh.}

Oooooh look out Doogs. The 11-year-old boy is BACK.

There you have it. I think my absence has successfully reduced my readership enough to make the pimpage offers dwindle as well. As for Swap Mamas? I’m slowly realizing the importance of balance. All work and no play does, indeed, make Mommypie a very dull girl.

So yesh … I think I’m back.



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22 responses to “Grab yer raingear. Mommypie’s purging.

  1. I am glad you are back.
    I am sorry your year has been funky.

    I agree with you on the whole give-a-way monetizing thing. I can see why some people do it, but that isn’t why I blog either.

  2. Well screw you. You are never going to win any of my give-aways from now on.

    I am KIDDING. But I will say there is a right way and a wrong way to handle it. And I am moving away from product placement to a blog Sponsorship and Brand Ambassadorship thing. (so no giveaways persay) But I digress…

    I am sorry I got you engaged in public. Like in PUBLIC PUBLIC. I am feeling awkward.

    Sometimes. Despite the best intentions and even love…it can be hard to make it happen. Like when companies merge…it can be the 11th hour when the deal falls thru. Doesn’t mean they didn’t want to merge. Doesn’t mean they won’t at sometime down the line. But it can be harder than it looks.

    Missed you. Can you tell?

    • ACK! Doog, I SOOOO wasn’t meaning to insult you or any blogger who does giveaways — it totally sounded like I did, didn’t it? You’re totally right about the right way and the wrong way to handle product placement … honestly, I just never figured out how to finesse it the way you do!

      {this is me puckering up … 🙂 }

      AND, do NOT be sorry about the engagement! I’m not! I LOVED it. Really, really, really loved it. It’s just a proximity thing (West vs. East), which sucks.


  3. Sounds like a crazy couple of months. So glad that you’re back!!!

  4. I’m very happy that you’re back. I’m hoping to read more about the relationship details (eventually) as I’m in a long-distance relationship myself.

    But what really matters is your happiness and how you decide to express yourself in your blog.

    So yeah…again…welcome back.


  5. amy

    i’m really sorry to hear things roughened up with the romance…i loved the proposal story, so it’s sad to find out about the bumps, but life does have a way of being, well, life-y. (i once cracked up a friend by saying, probably after a nice nero d’avola, “it’s the lifeyness of life that gets to you sometimes.”) anyway, it’s good to read this and i’m looking forward to coming back again and again and again and….

  6. So glad you’re back!

  7. Welcome back, Mommypie! Have dearly missed your tales of MP growing up, your wackadoo weekend challenges, and your wickedly funny photoshopped snaps. We are glad you are back! Want some tea?

  8. And all is right again in Bloggywood.


  9. Oakland Mama

    We’ve missed you, Mommy Pie!

  10. Finn

    Welcome back. Missed you.

  11. Rick's Cafe

    1st) Raise babypie.
    2nd) Make enough money to do it.
    3rd) Please yourself.
    4th) Please the rest of the world.

    Of course you can do it all, you’re a mommy …which makes you a superman/miracle worker.

    Enjoy the thought of reading your posts again.

  12. Rick's Cafe

    ….yeah, just what ya need – someone else telling ya what to do :))

  13. I am very happy and glad and be-awesomed right now.

    I have missed you so.

    Also? Please come by my blog for my most recent giveaway.

  14. bigskylifecoach

    Oh, it is so good to read your voice again! I love your posts.

    The silver lining in your tough year? Lots of fodder to eventually write about….and I’m sure you will do it with your wonderful wit and humor.

    Welcome back! You inspire the “wanna be blogger” in me:)

  15. I love how Ciaran explains the relationship between bloggers and brands: we’re 7th graders playing Spin the Bottle, and not knowing what to do! It’s a very interesting time, but I’m sure it will all work itself out.
    We get used to sharing so much in these spaces and then need to back off being so personal in order to protect ourselves and our loved ones.
    Congrats on all the success with SwapMamas! Glad you’re back.

  16. Doog, you weren’t gone, you were out LIVING. Like bottling farts and other stuff 11-year-old boys do, right?

    Glad you’re living. It’d be an awfully boring Blogosphere without Mommypie. 😉

  17. I’ve been neglecting my blog too. I missed reading yours but I’m glad you’re making a comeback 🙂

  18. Glad to have you back. You’ve been missed. 🙂

  19. Rick's Cafe

    heh..heh…Foolery said ‘farts’…
    But ya know, it’s rummored that methane might be heavier than oxygen and would sit comfortably at the bottom of a bottle. But how would anyone ever know the gas is there? hmmmm ;))

  20. Enjoy reading your stuff – it always makes me laugh (and occasionally ruin a good keyboard). Look forward to reading more.

  21. Good to see you in my reader Doog. I missed you.

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