“International Quirkyalone Day is a do-it-yourself celebration of romance, friendship, and independent spirit. It’s a celebration of all kinds of love: romantic, platonic, familial, and yes, self-love. International Quirkyalone Day is not anti-Valentine’s Day. It’s NOT a pity party for single people. It’s an alternative — a feel-good alternative to the marketing barrage of Valentine’s Day and an antidote to the silicone version of love persented in shows such as Hooking Up and The Bachelor.
Above all, IQD is a celebration of romance, freedom and individuality. It celebrates true romance (as opposed to the fake versions presented to us in reality dating shows), independence, creativity, friendship, and all kinds of love — including love for yourself. If you are single, International Quirkyalone Day is a call to arms to celebrate the possibilities available to single people today. If you are partnered, IQD is a vital reminder to value yourself and develop your individuality even when in a couple. Couples (especially quirkytogethers, of course) are welcomed to attend. After all, many a partnered person complains about the contrived nature of Valentine’s Day.
Quirkyalone Day is based on the ideas in Sasha Cagen’s book Quirkyalone: A Manifesto for Uncompromising Romantics. It’s an invitation to create a great day for yourself, whatever that means to you (and your partner if you have one and choose to celebrate with him or her). It’s a day to celebrate the things you love to do alone and the things you love to do with your friends. Ways to celebrate include: throwing a dinner party, buying yourself new underwear, rearranging your furniture, taking a long walk without your cell phone, exploring a new part of town, organizing a card-making party, trying a new recipe, or coming to or hosting a quirkyalone party.”
Sasha Cagan is so my HERO! I read her book a few years ago, and loved it so much, I bought four copies and sent one to each of my best Quirkyalone girlfriends for Valentine’s Day last year. Even if you don’t fall into the Quirkyalone category, single or not, I’m betting you’ll get a kick out of it.
Publishers Weekly says, “Cagen writes, her words echoing with the uplifting message that it’s not strange to be single; rather, single is the new norm. Cagen speaks out against dating for the sake of being in a couple and highlights the celebrities who fit and don’t fit the quirkyalone mold (Oprah: “of course”; Meg Ryan and Tom Hanks: “[E]nemies of quirkyalones everywhere”).
Check out the Quirkyalone site and take the quiz to see if you fall into this category. I can’t say it enough — I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this whole empowering, validating movement!